This was always my flaw. From a very young age I learned to be disappointed in a lot of things and over time I developed a self-defense mechanism to not expect too much, too not get my hopes up so that I wouldn’t get hurt.
I don’t have any expectations anymore, and I know that might be some cliché bullshit, but I stand by my shit.
Sometimes, because of that, I wouldn’t even start doing something because I already “knew” that I was setting myself up for disaster. I never dared to do almost anything. Playing it safe has become sort of a moto.
I didn’t go to University in a different city because I would have to pay for my expenses meaning I would have to work (well guess what, I still have to work and I didn’t move to another city to study, I stayed and picked the lesser of two evils at the time), I didn’t take any of the courses I wanted because I thought I couldn’t afford them when in reality I could ( I always wanted to go to a Creative Writing Course), I didn’t travel anywhere…
The reason why I didn’t start this blog earlier is the same – I knew that I would never be good in what I do, so I didn’t want to waste my time on it, even though I have started a blog at least twice so far and I lost interest within 10 days. That is why I am proud of myself for really sticking to it this time. I am finally breaking a mold I have been creating for so long.
This might seem overly pessimistic, but I like to think that I am a realistic person. I know what the calculated risks are and I decide if I want to take them or not. Most time I don’t, and that is something I have started to resent about myself. I wish I was more brave.
I see brave people everyday, doing what they love and not giving a damn if someone likes them for it or not. That is also another issues, I always needed to know that I am not being hated. It’s silly I know, but that was a result of a lot of insecurities that I have been carrying with me since my childhood.
I want to be one of those brave people, that don’t calculate and just don’t look at life that way. I wish I had done most of those things, maybe I wouldn’t be regretting them now.
Onwards and upwards I guess, to changing myself, changing my surroundings, and with that, my future.